Escaping Domestic Violence

Fear, intimidation and even shame can often prevent victims of domestic violence from coming forward.  However, reporting abuse to the proper authorities or talking to someone else who can do this is crucial. There are multiple hotlines and centers in New Hampshire for this exact purpose.  The New Hampshire Coalition Against Domestic and Sexual Violence (NHCADSV) is a statewide initiative coordinates 14 independent community-based member programs. They also maintain a 24-hour hotline dedicated to helping victims of domestic violence.  Their website, nhcadsv.org provides many resources and information on contacting crisis centers and keeping yourself safe.  As part of staying safe you should change your locks, phone number, and email address.  If your abuser does make contact, do not be fooled by apologies or appeals to sympathy.  Likewise, don’t allow yourself to be bullied into the abuser’s control by threats or intimidation.  Get to someplace safe and call the police. 

Another important step to consider is filing a “protective order” more commonly known as a restraining order.  Restraining orders require the offender to maintain a minimum physical distance at all times and to refrain from any communication.  The necessary paperwork to file a restraining order can be acquired at your nearest county courthouse. If you are unsure about where that is, this link: http://www.courts.state.nh.us/courtlocations/ lists all of the courthouses in New Hampshire by county.  If the abuser violates the order, you should call the police and they will enforce it.  If there is an immediate threat of physical violence, you can file a temporary order that will go into effect right away and will last until a formal hearing can be held.  The accused may contest this and you will be required to attend a hearing.  A final hearing occurs within thirty days of filing the application for the permanent restraining order. Both the victim and the alleged abuser present their case to the judge at this conference.  Although optional, you may want an attorney to represent you at this hearing.  If your situation requires emergency relief, contact an attorney or your local police station.  Know that there are people who want to help you escape domestic violence and an experienced criminal attorney can help you press charges.  It’s okay to call to know your rights.  You and your family deserve better.

Articles contained here are not intended to provide legal advice, only providing general information. We encourage individuals to consult with an attorney regarding individual circumstances.